New Year coming quick!

2015 is almost done, 2016 will be shiny and new.   I have a lot I want to work on the coming year moving, debt erasing, having a life outside of work and my kids, and a vacation in there somewhere.   I came across this wonderful article that really just hit home.  (Click the link below )  Oh #2 HELLO!   Hope you find it as helpful as I did! 

Happy New Year Loves!



Holiday Cheer turned to Holiday JeerĀ 

When you are a single mom with one income and no child support coming in holidays and birthdays are anything but cheerful for you.   My children understand that we don’t have a lot of extra cash laying around.  While we have the basics, we still live paycheck to paycheck.  Every years I think we will be okay and I can finally have a Christmas were I am not stressing out and every year something happens and that dream of a stress free Holiday disappears.   I know my kids will be happy with whatever they receive but I still feel guilty for not getting them what they really want or what my family wants.


Today I found out not only am I not getting the end of year bonus I was hoping for (couple hundred dollars) I am also not getting a raise for next year.  Apparently I did not exceed expectations enough to qualify for both or any.  Personally, I think it is utter bull crap because I do every job that was given to me and I even had several letters of excellence sent to my supervisor.   I don’t know what I did to deserve the rating I did receive which was “yay thanks for being average”.  So now I know next year is going to be the same as this year.  Which is just utterly depressing.   

Hoping my Christmas Jeer turns to Cheer some time soon.


Lost but now found

Ever since we had the vandalism and fires at my apartment complex only thing I have been wanting to do is leave!   So every day I work on cleaning out closets, cupboards and boxes.  Now, I have lived here almost seven years, I didn’t realize how much CRAP I HAVE!!

Every box is a mystery and like Christmas ha ha ha!  This box was in the back of my of closet on the floor for who knows how long.  I am so not organized, but working towards being better organized.


I have been finding things I thought were lost a million years ago.   My Gone With the Wind pill case from, gosh 7th grade, my secret journal from 8 years ago, my high school letter, the frame I received when my cat Tuxyman died, a cough drop EWWW and pens lots of pens.


So I sort the box and keep only a few things, the high school letter, the frame,  the journal and only the pens that actually work.   Now for some people sorting this box would have been easy just toss everything but when you come from a family of keepers, it is harder then it looks.   It has taken me years of therapy and the desire to change just to get this far.  My desire to change my habits on keeping things started 3 years ago and I am still working through things.   I have stopped hoarding magazines, I only allow myself the fall issue max 3 magazines.   At one point I had 10 magazines and catalogs coming to my house monthly plus I was purchasing others off the rack.   Pretty sure my mail person hated me.  I didn’t really see an issue till I moved to my current apartment 6 years ago,  I moved three boxes of magazines that the oldest was 5 years old.   I kept them because I had not finished reading them or there was a recipe or project I wanted to keep.    So I guess that was the true beginning of change though at the time that was the only thing I changed. 
So now during this I am finding the motivation I lost to continue to change and finding things I thought I lost.

Later my lovelies,


P.s. Change is messy!!! Lol